~
I still remember the moment I introduced my daughter to her baby brother.
How her adorable three-and-a-half-year-old arms (which only days ago had looked so. amazingly. small.) now seemed enormous as they gently held her newborn brother for the first time.
She stared down at him with amazement, yet also with this instant look of love which brightened her proud eyes.
It is this significant relationship and bond between siblings that is the topic of today’s guest.
Once a month we ask our NAMC members the question “What would be the most important wisdom you would want to pass down and share in a letter to your own child(ren) or grandchild(ren)”. This month we welcome a member of the Mothers’ Center of Greater Louisville to share her thoughts through her written voice.
Nelly is a mom to two beautiful girls – ages 2 and 4.
She and her husband raise their family in the state of Kentucky, a far cry from the country of Sweden where she was born and raised. She works part-time as a research analyst, and spends the rest of her time taking care of her girls and their home.
Without further ado, I present you with Nelly’s letter to her children.
Pictured above: Nelly’s daughters
To My Girls,
I can think of so much advice I want to give you for your life ahead like:
- How very few things in life come easy, and
- How you have to work hard, never give up, and not be afraid of failure, or
- How I want you to travel, have fun, be happy, dream big, be generous and so much more.
But what I really wish for you is that you will:
Look out for each other, stand up for each other and stick together.
Mom and dad will not always be your best friends, so then you will have each other to turn too. Being good friends with your sister won’t always be easy and will require a lot of hard work. You will have to learn to forgive each other for the little things and the big things.
It is ok to disagree; it may even bring you closer together. But nothing can beat having your sister as your best friend for the rest of your life.
I love the late nights when I let you stay up because you are playing so well with each other and having so much fun together without mom or dad – just your sister next to you. One of my favorite moments of the day is when we leave you at pre-school and you give each other a kiss and say, “See you later.”
You are both beautiful, smart and talented and I am so very proud of you.
Love Always,
Mom
Leave a Comment: How do you help your children nurture a positive sibling relationship? Please help me give a warm welcome to this month’s Mothers Central Blog guest Nelly by leaving her a comment and sharing her letter with others!
~
Are you interested in submitting a guest post letter?
We’ve been asking our members across the nation to respond to the question:
What would you tell your child in a letter? Get more details and read other guest post letters here.
{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }
Nelly, thank you so much for taking the time to write such a touching and heartfelt letter to your girls. As a mom to 3 children and also as a sister myself, I connected to your words on multiple levels. I hope that by modeling compassion and love that my own kids will model this same behavior – especially within the significant relationships they have between their siblings!
Thanks Kate, I’m a sister myself and my sister and I do not get along very well, that’s why it’s so important for me that my gils get along. My husbands siblings get along really well and I want that for my girls.
Nelly, as the mother of two girls (6 yrs and 6 mths) I was deeply touched by your advice to “Look out for each other, stand up for each other and stick together.”
Their bond seemed to be instant and they absolutely adore one another. I can only hope and pray that continues as the years go on
Thank you for sharing!
Thanks Tatum. I know it won’t be says for them to always get along but I will help them to in what ever way I can.
Thank you for this letter on a so important issue! What we mothers focus on as we consciously build family relationships gives us a special knowledge and skill. I believe mothers can model care and compassion, consideration,love, etc,and that this skill is so important to spread in the larger world. How else to bring about a more peaceful world ? Mothering hones our maternal wisdom..We really are so wise.Our mother center culture was built honoring the nurturing wisdom within us.
I have a sister too, and my mother told me that holding on to each other was of utmost importance. Thank you Nelly for you touching, truthful letter.
Thanks for you kind words Lorri.
Every time I read your letter, especially “Look out for each other, stand up for each other and stick together” it makes me tear up. I really think that is the essence of being a sibling. Beautifully written. I hope that for my boys as well.